I remember locking myself in the bathroom while I was screaming and crying many years ago. I didn’t want to scare the kids. It was the middle of busy season, and my husband was on a client with an IPO from Hell. In the midst of the crying, I remember looking up to the ceiling through the tears saying, “This isn’t the life I signed up for!”
When I got married, I knew there would be challenges and struggles, but I always thought I’d be experiencing them with my husband. I didn’t anticipate that the career path my partner chose meant he would be working around the clock. It felt like the thing that was providing for us was pulling us apart. I also felt like I always had to pick up the pieces of our lives because if I didn’t, who would?? For many years, this thought caused me so much pain.
During those dark times, I felt powerless to a situation I thought was out of my control.
Have you ever felt this way?
I remember hearing a life coach speak of our ability to choose. She was coaching another mom about the stress of parenthood. She told this mom she had the choice to stay or to leave. I was shocked. Why would ANYONE ask if a mom wanted to leave her kids?
But, I continued to listen.
This life coach spoke of our ability to choose our life knowing that whatever life we choose will include positive and negative emotions. She spoke of choosing to stay or to go because in making that decision, we maintain our power.
So, for the first time ever, I considered my options. I could leave my husband and kids. I could leave with the kids. I could temporarily move in with my parents. I could get a full-time job and a nanny for the kids. I could do any number of things because it was my choice. I held the power of that choice, and it was freeing to think of the choices I had instead of the “have-tos” on my plate.
And, do you know what I chose? I chose to stay. I chose my husband, my kids, and the craziness of it all. 5 years later, I continue to choose them every single day. It’s the best choice I have ever made, and one that I will continue to make for the rest of my life. It’s a choice that puts me as the driver in my life instead of the victim to my circumstances.
If you were asked if you could choose your life again, what would you say? My guess is you would choose it, too. Recognize that choice, and enjoy being the driver once again.
If the life you choose still seems overwhelming or you honestly don’t know if you would choose it again, I’m here for you. I will show you how to access your inner strength to make this decision. I will also teach you how to lessen the overwhelm with the life you have chosen. You deserve someone to walk you through these steps.
Click here to send me an email. Put, “I’m in.” in the subject line and hit send. I will take you the rest of the way so that you can finally feel peace and calm within the life you have.
